A few days ago I left a comment on a fellow bloggers blog about my opinion on breastfeeding in public. Granted I’ve not had a baby, I still shared my opinion when I left a comment … however, I wasn’t expecting to get this response back ….
I feel guilty for replying … I should have just let it go, but I don’t like to be beat-up!
I feel like what’s bugging me the most is the comment poster is stating that I am trying to make it so woman to NOT nurse in public. Where did I say that? All I said is I as a random stranger prefer when women try to keep themselves covered and modest. Does that make me nuts or insecure? I think not!
I know and understand everyone has their own rights to their own opinion, but that doesn’t mean that I am not allowed my own opinion as well!!
Wow……that’s all I can say.
Hey Cori-
I thought your comments were great. (This person obviously hasn’t had a teenage son yet I’m thinking.) Don’t feel bad about replying, you were still very polite I thought! You go girl!
Thanks Nancy!! Happy to hear I’m not alone!!
If my seven year old son saw her popping her breast out in public he would definently get a kick out of seeing her breast! You can cover up a little if you do nurse in public. When I breastfed my first son I sure didnt just pop my breast out anywhere. You can also pump your milk and bring a bottle in case you are going to be in public. There are also restrooms to use! I cant believe people sometimes!
some random woman’s breast is definitely NOT what parents want their young son’s to be seeing! I’m totally with you!
I would like to see HER reaction when her husband would drool over some random super-sexy mom, popping out both her boobs and nursing her baby. And he WOULD stare as breasts become something of a taboo for a man for the whole nursing period. That could raise some heavy pillow talk.
THEN I would like to see her reaction. But then again, her husband might just be blind or castrated. Or a super-nice guy. But from her answer, I guess he is not
LOL I love your “name”
I’m with you, I’d like to see her reaction when her husband is going gaga over someone else’s boobs!
You handled yourself appropriately – her response, and attitude – are entirely inappropriate. Coming from a long line of breast feeders – I was taught to be modest and respectful of other people – in all situations – but especially when breastfeeding my child. The boobie-floppers as we call them, are the ones that cause all the outrage, when its just not necessary. Totally unnecessary. It sounds to me like she was looking for someone to jump on – and she picked you.
She definitely was looking for someone to jump on and I was that lucky person!
I don’t understand what’s wrong with MODESTY??!!
You did nothing wrong and you handled it very well.
Just because you had a child and choose to breastfeed does not automatically make your rights to do so more important than my rights to not have to see you whip out a breast if I don’t care to see it. Again – modesty.
But regardless, no one’s trying to tell women they can’t breastfeed in public.
Thanks Jen. I thought I posted a respectful post and didn’t believe I was infringing on anyone’s right’s … just stating my personal opinion!
I agree with you! I’ve just begun breastfeeding my 3rd child and I REFUSE to just pop out my boobins in public! I’m all about doing what is natural, but it doesn’t take much to just throw a receiving blanket over yourself to be respectful of others.
Exactly!! Congratulations by the way on your new beautiful Rowan Elyse!! She’s beautiful!!
Why do women have to fight about this? Like pushing her opinions down your neck. Does anyone really want to see boobs hanging out while in a shopping cart? No. If she wants to do it and I saw her, I’d just ignore it. But to be all “I make milk, HEAR ME ROAR” about it is just bullshit.
“Does anyone really want to see boobs hanging out while in a shopping cart? No.”
EXACTLY!
WOW Cori! I’m sorry that happended to you. As a mom who nursed, I did NOT find your statement offisive in any way. Actually, I agree 100%.
I did not nurse in public. While at family events, I’d find a room to be alone. For me breasfeeding was a time for baby to eat in peace, quiet, and safty in mommy’s arms. For me, it was a sweet mommy moment. Times I did nurse in front of others it was becuase they put themselves in that situation – I didn’t plop myself out in front of them.
It seems to me this mom is going for shock value: “I popped my entire breast out and fed my son while he sat in the shopping cart.” If you need to feed your son in the middle of shopping you did not plan very well.
Also to state: “If you are insecure, fine…” Insecure about what? Breast size? Because any size breast can nurse.
BTW, not insecure. I actually was worried breast were too big to nurse – not so.
Cori, your opinon was not rude or attacking.
~ Mona : )
Mona’s Milestones
Wow! I just read my post over… talk about typos … sorry, I was typing too fast.
((( blushing )))
She definitely was going for shock value and I think she successfully portrayed it!!
LOL not to worry about the spelling errors!! I’m constantly doing that!
She popped her whole boob out and fed her kid while he was in a shopping cart?! I’m sorry legally that’s not a right. It’s a crime. It’s indecent exposure. Boobs are sex organs. Not feed bags.
Indecent Exposure … in this context (popping out her boob proudly and feeding her baby in a shopping cart) I totally agree!!
Hi Cori! I’ve been breastfeeding for 8 months and to tell you the truth, I still have not done it in public. I feel more comfortable when I’m doing it at home or where we have a private place. That’s just me! My husband has been very supportive of our breastfeeding routines so when we go out he is always willing to turn on the air in the car and park somewhere so I can feed the baby. Besides all the troubles hiding so I don’t blush, I truly recommend breastfeeding. It is a wonderful thing!
I’m starting to think Mrs. Flamer is in the minority! Seems like the majority of people believe that there’s nothing wrong with wanting modesty when nursing. Seriously, is it that big of a deal??
So, Yeah she is WAYY off base with her comment. I am a breastfeeding mama, I don’t advocate for it, it’s something I choose for me and my baby. Prior to having my 3rd baby I never really nursed in public, but with the baby I did, I bought covers, blankets and we managed to nurse in public and never once have I showed any skin. None at all. (Gotta say I’m pretty darn proud of that fact LOL, esp with a wide eye baby wanting to see the world)
I don’t have a problem with women who choose to nurse in public, but just whipping out the goods is a bit much. My BIL had an encounter with a woman who did just that, no cover or anything. His TWO YEAR OLD had to see that. Not cool.
Your comment ….
“I don’t have a problem with women who choose to nurse in public,but just whipping out the goods is a bit much.”
is EXACTLY my point! Feed your baby but there’s no need to flash your boobs to everyone else.
You are so right. Don’t feel bad, there is a time and place for everything and that includes breast feeding.
Thanks Steph! It’s been comforting to hear that I’m not alone and appear to be in the majority when it comes to breastfeeding in public!
Hey Cori, you honestly did nothing wrong. I’m pro breast feeding and doing in public, HOWEVER I just don’t see why my husband, my son, etc need to see other women boobs at the grocery store. Sit down on a bench, feed your kids in a dignified way and then get the grocery. it’s simple really!
I totally agree with you Lu “Sit down on a bench, feed your kids in a dignified way and then get the grocery. it’s simple really!”